My Eat-Pray-Love date with Oprah

by Kristen on October 15, 2014

This past Saturday I looked for something inspirational to start my morning with.

It was one of those days 2014-10-15 13.48.55where I knew I wanted to be productive…but man did the bed feel good.

In these situations – I always turn to YouTube to find inspirational interviews with people I know are dong purposeful in the world. Currently, I’m going through an Oprah phase.

Little did I know that I’d find myself on a hot date with Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love and Oprah, talking about following your calling (your life’s purpose.)

“The call” (the beginning of the hero’s journey) is the path to uncovering your purpose in life – the BIG – “what-I’m-here-to-do” work that’s the reason you were born.

And often we’ll refuse the call by getting caught up in what we “should” be doing…
We should get married.
We should have kids.
We should keep this stable job.
We should save as much as we can.

My BIG “I should” was feeling like I needed to be a business coach when that’s not the truth of what I’m here to do. I’m passionate about business. It’s why I spend so much time talking about branding. But it’s not at the heart of what I most want people to know when my time here on earth is done.

But never the less – I got caught up in a very common coaching trap:
Teaching people how to make money is the best way to make money – right?

But about 2 years ago through a series of and life-changing events I got The Call.

Gilbert says The Call is the question that begins every person’s quest.

That question is always this:

What have I come here to do with my life?

And about 3 years ago – I was DEEP in that question.

Because I was in the middle of the worst year of my health coaching business.
I knew health coaching was a stepping-stone and that at some point the next step would become clear (3 years into health coaching with both personal and client successes, it hadn’t become clear yet.)
I didn’t know which niche to choose as a health coach.
I was grateful when clients cancelled.
I was depressed because I felt like I had no direction for my business and life.
And then I felt ashamed because I didn’t know what I was doing.

I spent that year asking –

What have I come here to do with my life?

Within a year I had an answer and a vision that began my quest.
But the truth was…
It felt. SO. HUGE. SO BIG. SO beyond what I was capable of at the time. And even now at times, I can see the vision and it feels beyond me.

Can you relate to any of this?

The reason I went after it is because of what they talk about at the beginning of video two – the feeling that I might shut down if I didn’t. It felt like I didn’t have a choice.

Even though I did.

We all have a choice.

And I share this with you today to remind you that YOU have a choice – in spite of how much it looks like you may not.

The fork in the road for me was:

Continue what I knew, what felt safe, made decent money and made me miserable.


Step into this other…THING…
Which sounded completely crazy and wasn’t fully formed even in my mind.
A type of work I had no idea if I’d be good at…
No idea if anyone would listen to me…
And no clue how to make money at…yet.

While it wasn’t an easy choice (and some days now, still isn’t an easy choice to keep going) I keep getting reminders that this was the right choice for me.

The work I do now helps people uncover their life purpose and build it into the message for their business and brand.

This is the work I feel most alive doing.
It’s the work I’d do for free.
And it’s the work that I know no one else can do the way I do.
It’s also the work I’m reminded by clients, friends, and colleagues alike that the world needs me to do right now.

I know there’s something like this for you.

And by asking yourself the question you’ll get what you need to begin your quest.

What have I come here to do with my life?

I’d love to hear what your Hero’s Journey has been like and what thoughts you have as you begin or continue your quest. Leave me a note and let me know!